Saturday, February 25, 2012

THE ECONOMICS OF LIFE

An excerpt from the book ‘Dumbing Down our Kids’ by educator Charles Sykes lists 14 things young people did not and will not learn in school. Bill Gates also mentioned them in his speech at a High School. I personally like rules 3, 5 and 7:

Rule 3 : You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 5 : Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

The underlying thread is perhaps the importance of the economics of life targeted at a generation that has no concept of reality and expects hand-outs and bail outs from doting parents and the like.

Quite recently my step sons gave me a beautiful porcelain money box and I took a trip down memory lane and remembered three specific events.

At seven years old, I had my first ceramic money box in the shape of an animal and I began to stash away a tidy sum of unused pocket money.

One day when my mother and sister were leaving for Kuala Lumpur for an event which I cannot remember now, I excitedly asked my sister to get me a teddy bear if she saw one. I had seen teddy bears in books but never had one. The one that I fancied was the Made-in-China one which had bright orange fur and moveable arms. When my mother and sister returned from Kuala Lumpur, I was overjoyed when the very same bear was thrust into my hands.

But the joy was short-lived as my mother quipped, ‘Now who is going to pay for that?’

I knew from the severity of her voice that there was no two ways about it. So I went to my money box, removed the rubber stopper and counted RM21.00 in coins. The bear cost RM13. Much as I loved the bear it was heart rending to have to part with that huge amount of money that had been saved over a long time. So I handed the money to my sister who had paid for it only to be told that she and my brother had split the cost of the bear and I did not have to pay anything for it. Not only did I have the bear but my savings were also intact. That was the ultimate child’s dream.

At eight years old, I had eyed a pair of Shirley Temple’s Mary Jane at a BATA shoe shop. A stipend of RM6 was given for pair of new shoes each year and if I wanted anything fancy, it was understood that I had to pay the difference in price. I paid the difference of RM7.
I am glad that I learnt the value of money and economics.

At nine years old, I learnt the meaning of disciplined giving. The Christian faith teaches that the believer tithes one-tenth of what he has. So I acquired a second money box in the shape of a plastic shoe. Only this time there was no rubber stopper at the sole of the shoe.

For every ringgit I had I put away ten sen into the money box. When December came, I gave the shoe to my sister and asked her to take it to the church because my mother did not allow me to go to church then as she was not a Christian at that time. The money was to be given to the missionaries and to the children in faraway lands who needed it more that I.

I had read in a book where some children had to wait a whole day for a benevolent person to give them a cucumber to ease their hunger pangs. I had read another story where a mother had to put rubber bands round a milk bottle to serve as markings so her three children knew exactly how much milk each was entitled to.I felt great joy handling over that shoe that was very laden with coins.

Needless to say, when I studied economics in Form 6, it was like a familiar friend. When I taught economics in Kluang High School, I enjoyed it thoroughly.

Source: http://www.nst.com.my/opinion/columnist/the-economics-of-life-1.51928

Sunday, February 12, 2012

GUESS WHO IS COMING TO DINNER?


IN Guess who’s coming to Dinner, a 1967 American drama film starring Spencer Tracy, Sidney Poitier and Katharine Hepburn, we see a young white woman bringing home her new fiancĂ©, a black physician, to meet her parents.
Now, fast forward to 2012 and you find your daughter bringing home to dinner a man whom she fancies except that he is of a different race.
What will your reaction be?
Will it be very different from that of Matt (Spencer Tracy) and Christina Drayton’s (Katharine Hepburn)?
In Malaysia, we do have many mixed marriages and most parents have braced themselves sufficiently for love relationships between Malays, Chinese, Indians, Eurasians and Caucasians.
But the feedback I got was despite the modernity of this day and age, most Malaysian parents are still not very comfortable with the idea of the fusion of colours on the opposite extremes of the colour spectrum: black and white.

Good friends yes, but to go further than that is a different matter. This reminds me of what Christina Drayton said in the movie:
“She’s 23 years old, and the way she is, is just exactly the way we brought her up to be.
“We answered her questions. She listened to our answers.
“We told her it was wrong to believe that the white people were somehow essentially superior to the black people, or the brown or the red or the yellow ones, for that matter.
“People who thought that way were wrong to think that way. Sometimes hateful, usually stupid, but always, always wrong.
“That’s what we said. And when we said it, we did not add, ‘But don’t ever fall in love with a coloured man’.”
I am all for cross-cultural education and appreciation.
When I was lecturing or presenting papers at conferences, I enjoyed wearing the kebaya, cheongsam or sari to reflect the multi-ethnic diversity of Malaysians.

When I hosted dinners, the menu would be an assortment of dishes from different cultures.
During my travels, I would be very interested in the country’s cultures, traditions and cuisine.

For instance, from Nepal, I learnt how to wear a Daura-Suruwal, which is a traditional Nepali dress; from China, I experienced the “fire cupping” for the tired traveller’s body and from Cambodia, I learnt how to cook a popular Khmer dish called Amok trey which is fish covered with kroeung (a marinade paste) and coconut milk, wrapped in banana leaves and steamed.

When we are exposed to others quite unlike ourselves, we learn a great deal.
Basically, aspirations and needs are relatively similar despite the skin colour.
There are universal values like taking care of our health, being considerate and mindful of others and being polite.
There are also common threads in bringing up children, in the importance of education and in the pursuit of dreams.
However, there are also obvious differences in the way we perceive what happens around us and good taste in one culture may not be the same in another.
Having said that, differences may blur over time and boundaries that once existed between cultures in one generation may not be there in the next generation.
I like the phrase “To separate the chaff from the wheat” which means to separate things of value from things of no value.
What are the things that we look for in a person?
Some girls look for the 5 Cs when choosing their future spouses — Cash, Car, Credit card, Condominium and Country club membership.
Others look for physical attributes. In the choice of a mate, my advice to my children has always been value-based: God-fearing, responsible, sensible, diligent and true.
So the acid test presented itself when my five-foot-three (1.6m) daughter brought home a six-foot-five (1.9m) male specimen for dinner.
The coffee coloured God-fearing, responsible, sensible, diligent and true Sudanese guest and the yellow coloured Malaysian daughter offered to prepare the dessert — an orange coloured carrot cake with cream coloured cheese frosting in my white Irish kitchen.
Now, that is what I call a colourful setting.

I could not agree more with what Matt Drayton said, “There’ll be 100 million people right here in this country who will be shocked and offended and appalled and the two of you will just have to ride that out....... But you’re two wonderful people who happened to fall in love and happened to have a pigmentation problem….”

Happy Valentine’s Day

SOURCE: Guess who’s coming to dinner? - Columnist - New Straits Timeshttp://www.nst.com.my/opinion/columnist/guess-who-s-coming-to-dinner-1.45449#ixzz1m9zgCQdE